Wednesday, November 24, 2010
My Perfect Child
Now, anyone who knows her will know that she's far from perfect, but I just had the "good mama moment" of the year here so bear with me.
Last night we had Violet's first preschool conferences. I've done preschool conferences before many times. Twice a year for Henry and Mitchell, two years of preschool each so that's... uh... do I add or multiply? Mmmm... I think i've done eight. Yeah, eight. Plus kindergarten, first, and second grade conferences, so i'm definitely in the double digits in my conference experience. So far the conferences have followed a definite theme. That theme being, "He's very bright and we love him and he has lots of friends BUT we have some serious behavior issues to work on." Over and over again the same things from each teacher for each boy.
Violet has a lot of similar traits as the boys, but is also much more compliant and cheerful by comparison. So I was hoping her conference might go a bit better, but I was also prepared for a list of things we need to "work on".
You could have knocked me over with a feather as I walked out of that conference. I was stunned. They did nothing but rave about Violet and tell me how impressed they were and how well-rounded she was. They used words like friendly, social, independent, self-directed, and well-behaved. She uses all the materials, she makes friends, she sings the songs, she counts, she gets a teacher when she needs help or has a disagreement with another child. She is handling all the academic work just fine (which isn't much - counting and identifying colors and such - but still). They couldn't think of a single thing she needed to work-on. On the part of the conference form where you write down goals for the rest of the year they could only put "Keep up the good work!"
It just made me a little bummed that she was going to the public preschool instead of the Montessori school that the boys attended. They both had the same teacher (poor woman!) so she got five years straight of dealing with my boys. I was really hoping that she might have gotten to see that I'm not an awful parent. I really CAN raise obedient and pleasant children.
Though in their defense, while obedient and pleasant is a refreshing change for our household, it is somewhat overrated. There is definitely something to be said for wild and ornery little boys who have an incredible zest for life and a curiosity that can't be beat. They are so much fun. I feel very lucky to get to raise some of each kind of child.
Posted by Mrs. Maelstrom