It's tough to feel like you can't be honest. Like you can't reach out for help when you need it. But that's how I feel to a certain extent about homeschooling. While I do have people I can go to for support, there is also a large group of people who I feel like I need to put on the "happy face" for. People who pooh-pooh homeschooling and think it's ridiculous. People who are convinced we could never pull it off. When they ask me how it's going it's frustrating that I can't be honest. Whenever I AM honest and say how tough it is, it's like dumping a gallon of blood into shark infested waters. They attack. Mostly in a very passive aggressive way, but still. When I'm feeling bad about how homeschooling is going, the last thing I need is someone rubbing my face in the fact that they "told me so" and asking me if I'm going to send Mitch to public school now.
And our personal experience aside, the last thing I want to do is give these people more ammunition for their "Homeschooling is Bunk" mindset. Even if homeschooling doesn't work out for us in the long run, it doesn't mean that it's a bad idea in general. Regardless of how my kids end up being taught next year or the year after or the year after that, I will always think that homeschooling is a very valuable educational option for families. So I sometimes feel like, besides preserving my own dignity, I also have a responsibility to preserve the "face of homeschooling". And so I hide how I'm really feeling and how things are going.
I am usually a very up front, honest, and open individual. So this is a new thing for me, this hiding, and I don't really like it at all. But the alternative, getting torn down for our choices, is something I like even less. So for now, I'll smile and nod and say "Everything's great!" and give examples of what our best days look like.
Homeschooling families - have you dealt with this scenario in the past? How have you approached it or come to terms with it?